If you’ve ever picked up a magazine at the pediatrician’s office, you know that the glossies are full of parenting tips and advice. Five Simple Steps to Get Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night! Top Ten Ways to Raise a Happy Child! Magazine editors love bullet points, solutions, and sound-bytes. They know how to [...]
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Advice From the Trenches
August 11th, 2010 No Comments
Tags: advice · Mom-Coma · Parenting · parenting experts
Appetite For Destruction
August 4th, 2010 1 Comment
(No, not the rockin Guns n’ Roses album, but the force of nature that is Carmen…) Of all the trials and tribulations in my nearly five years of motherhood, I’d never suffered public humiliation until last week. I have a thick skin– I can handle my toddler unloading in her swim diaper every single time [...]
Tags: destruction · library books · toddlers
Beauty Shop Hotline
July 26th, 2010 2 Comments
It’s ten o’clock on a Saturday night and I’m leaning over the tub, my head coated in brown-green goop. The henna smells earthy and vegetative, like wet grass. It stains the white tub with mahogany grit when I wash it out, and makes my hair dry as a husk of corn. But it’s all worth [...]
Tags: beauty · hair-color · henna · Max and Ruby
Zoo Story
July 14th, 2010 1 Comment
By the end of the day, I’d lost it completely. My façade of patience had melted, and I trudged through the hot hordes of Saturday zoo-goers, wielding the black double stroller like a weapon. But taking the girls to New York City for the weekend was an ambitious plan. “Only people who aren’t New Yorkers [...]
Tags: anticipation · Bronx Zoo · Eckhart Tolle · New York · Parenting
Never-Never-land
May 25th, 2010 1 Comment
My preschooler is on a quest for a Nanny. She writes up an advertisement for someone to take care of her when her mother is busy, distracted, or grumpy. The two job requirements are: -Must Speak English -Must Be Friendly Ava is hoping for Mary Poppins or Maria from The Sound of Music (I’ve had [...]
Tags: Mary Poppins · nanny · preschooler
The Cult of Birth
May 19th, 2010 No Comments
Whenever I hear through the mother’s grapevine that some woman has gone ahead and had a 4-hour labor and a blissful, natural childbirth, I get a pang of envy and regret. What I would have given for a Butter Birth— a short, smooth labor where everything slides! It’s not that I consciously want anyone else [...]
Tags: Birthing From Within · c-section · cesarean · childbirth · PTSD
C is for Cut
April 26th, 2010 1 Comment
We were lying on the living room rug, wrestling and talking about belly buttons. My daughter has long been fascinated and confused by her navel, which she calls “the hole in my body.” Our conversation meandered to umbilical cords, how babies grow inside their mommies’ tummies, and inevitably, to how babies come out. We’d made [...]
Tags: birth trauma · c-section · cesarean birth · Ina May Gaskin · Sheila Kitzinger
The Princess Phase
April 11th, 2010 1 Comment
The revelation comes at bathtime: “Mommy, you know what? All the Princesses meet a Prince in their movies!” My daughter’s eyes grow wide with the thrill of discovery. At age 4, she’s utterly captivated by the Disney Princesses, despite my best efforts to downplay them. These nine highnesses shine like beacons of magic, beauty and [...]
Tags: Ariel · Aurora · Cinderella · Disney princess · Dora the Explorer · preschooler · princesses · Snow White
Are We Done Yet?
March 28th, 2010 2 Comments
It’s spring, and babies are cropping up everywhere. At Parent-Tot Open Gym I encounter a young blonde woman with 6-week-old twins– and a frisky 2-year-old. This is my personal nightmare, but the mom looked happy and calm as she told me what a good helper the toddler was, bringing her diapers, entertaining the infants. The boy-baby [...]
Tags: 17 Kids and Counting · Jon and Kate Plus 8 · making babies
Cocktails at Sugar Camp
March 24th, 2010 Comments Off
I have a secret lust for urban pleasures. My friend Alexa is child-free in San Francisco, and I live vicariously through her city life. She blogs about cocktails, cardio strip-tease, parties with fire-eaters and burlesque shows, and dancing till dawn at disco clubs. Alexa’s life gives me an infusion of fantasy, better than a bubble [...]
Tags: maple sugaring · maple syrup · mud season · Pure Food and Wine